157. MONDAY MINDSET: Make dread the metric (and why winners NEVER wait until they feel like it)

Stop waiting to feel like doing the work. If you're stuck in a cycle of waiting for motivation, you're literally training your brain to be weaker, not stronger. Dread isn't a sign you're not meant to do it. This is where the REAL growth happens.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why 50% of your life will be filled with negative emotion and why that's actually the best news for your business. I'll share why successful people aren't the ones waiting for inspiration, and why your competitors who "just do it anyway" are running circles around you. Plus, I'll tell you about my Pilates commitment and how doing shit you hate is the exact path to an amazing business.

What You'll Learn:

• Why waiting to feel motivated is sabotaging your business
• The truth about negative emotion (and why accepting it changes everything)
• How to run your business independent of your feelings
• Why resistance is actually where growth lives
• The simple metric that changes everything (hint: it's dread)
• How to build an unbreakable commitment to yourself
• Why your biggest wins come from doing things you don't want to do

TIMESTAMPS

0:00:00 - Intro: Stop waiting to feel like doing the work
0:01:00 - How we fuck ourselves by expecting to always feel good
0:02:00 - The 50% negative emotion reality (and why it's actually brilliant)
0:04:00 - Why pausing everything when you don't feel like it is destroying your results
0:06:00 - My personal Pilates commitment: how I'm actually doing it
0:08:00 - The dread metric: tracking the uncomfortable shit that works
0:09:00 - The daily challenge: commit to doing shit you hate
0:12:00 - The formula: doing everything you said when you don't feel like it

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Transcript

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I think that we fuck ourselves because we assume that we are doing things right. If we feel good and we feel motivated. It. I want you to think about that for a second. Has there ever been like a moment in time when you have been like, oh, I kind of don't feel like it. Oh, it mustn't be aligned. Right. And we look for a sign in that like, oh, there's resistance. I'm not motivated. Not meant to be, not meant to be wrong, wrong, wrong. anything that is new. Especially in business. Business is basically like one whole fucking bundle of regular, uncomfortable, uncomfortable shit. But if we are continually expecting ourselves to feel good, feel motivated, and feel like doing it, we can really fuck ourselves up Because the problem is right. Think about it this way, if you constantly are waiting to feel like doing something. Let's pretend that you are like, I wanna write a sales page, and you are waiting to feel like it. What happens is the longer that you leave it. Your feelings around yourself start to erode because what you are now looking at is you still haven't done the thing, but you also haven't done the thing and two months has passed and now all of a sudden you are doing some kind of monologue about how your brain is fucked and how, why can't you get this right? When Shithead Stacey, who is your terrible competitor, seems to do this and you can't. The thing is, it's probably because you are waiting to feel like doing it. Trust me, I do this. I do this all the time. I do this with so many things in my life and what I have to tell myself and what I have to remember is some advice that I learned from my unofficial mentor, Brooke Castillo, and she said that 50% of your life will be filled with negative emotion. So things like being bored, sad, mad, not feeling like doing it. All of that. So 50% of your life will be filled with negative emotion, and the sooner you accept that, the happier you'll be. And I remember when I heard this, I was angry. I was outraged. I was like, what do you mean I'm not gonna feel good all the time? What the fuck is this shit? I wanted to flip a table like I was mad. And I was mad because who wants to go through life? Feeling like you're just not gonna feel happy. Like we always wanna feel good. And I didn't like that. Because I was like, why can't I feel good all the time? And it's like you can feel good, you can do as much as you can to feel good, but who has it ever felt worse because you are questioning why you feel bad. Okay? I've had days like this in business before where I've had sales come in, I've had things working for me. I don't even have anything on my my to-do list that day. I have nothing urgent and I feel really flat. And then I feel terrible because I'm like, the sun's out. I've got cash in the bank. Things are working well, why do I feel bad? And then guess what? I always feel worse. Instead of just accepting that sometimes you are just gonna have a day where you don't feel that sexy and things just don't feel that exciting and you're feeling a bit flat and it happens. That is life and it happens. But the problem is for a lot of us. We feel like that when days like this happen is we put a pause on everything. It's like I can't possibly go and do the thing that I said that I was gonna do because I don't feel like doing it. So I'm not gonna do it that well. I don't wanna write an email. I'm feeling like a cranky bitch that wants to stab someone, so I'm gonna leave it. The problem is, if our method for running our business and living our life in the fullest is, is. Run by us and how we feel. Then the issue is then. Of course you feel stressed when you have a bad day or you don't feel like it because you continually show yourself that everything stops and good things can't happen, you know? Then if you don't feel like it, you are not gonna exercise, which also means that you're gonna feel like shit a couple days from now. If you have a couple days like that, which stresses you out even more instead of telling yourself, okay, cool, you don't feel like it, do, just go do it, and it's not maybe about doing it. Like if you normally go and do say like a 5K walk every morning and you're like, oh my God, I don't feel like it. Just put on your active wear. Get outta the house, walk around the block, push yourself a bit more, push yourself a bit more. Go and do it. Maybe you end up doing 4K. That's awesome. You still did it. And then guess what? You've had a really sour bitch. Bad day. You go to bed at night. And maybe you're still feeling a bit crappy, but you still have so many things that you have done in your day where you are gonna feel good. And guess what happens? Maybe you wake up the next day and you feel amazing. What's not to say that the reason you feel amazing is from all of the endorphins that you did from exercising? What's not to say that you feel amazing because you've gotta sail from the work that you did yesterday, from the content that you wrote or the email that you sent. What I wanna say then is if you wanna feel good. If you want to have these incredible emotions, then what is gonna give you that feeling of good are these wins that we wanna have. So what will actually put you in a better state is actually doing all the things that you don't wanna do and you don't feel like doing it. It's like if you are driving through a really, like just, I don't know, like shit road, you don't wanna prolong the drive by stopping and wondering why the road is shit. You keep driving, you're like, let's just get through this. I just wanna do it. I wanna rip the bandaid off. And I have, a personal example here. So I am in my Fitbit era, I think it was November 24th last year I purchased three months of unlimited Pilates classes and I booked as many classes as I could, I think a month ahead. So I booked, maybe it was like 24 or 26 classes, and I'm like, they're in my schedule, they're in my diary, done, gonna make the commitment and go. And it's really funny that. When I did that, there were a few people that were like, oh yeah, that end of year energy, the year of the horse is coming up. Of course you feel like it. I'm like, guys, I can't emphasize that. I haven't felt like going, I don't like it. There is part of me that is so inherently lazy. I am, I don't wanna do anything. I just wanna sit. I wanna lay and I wanna doom scroll. There is like a part of me, that just doesn't wanna do it. She's lazy. Bitch. I wanna lay in the sun with my sunglasses on. I wanna have a nap, gimme a cocktail, gimme a coffee. I'm tapping out. I'm clocking off for today, but I don't let her run the fucking show. Because I know what happens is if she runs the show, what I do though, is I let her come out in sometimes little moments, but I am still strict enough with myself that I have followed through because I keep my word and I do everything that I say that I was gonna do. So what I want you to get clear on here is the laundry list of shit that you are not doing because you've convinced yourself that you can't do it, and I want you to just suck it up and I want you to do it. Having worked with clients for the past 17 years in my advisory, Pilates and all of the other things that I have done. What has given people the situation that they are in today, whether it's they have a really tight body or they have no strength, or they have no money, or they're unhappy, it always comes down to what they do on any given day, and how many people have a, a, a need to only move. And only do things when they feel like it. It's like if you are gonna get fit, if you wanna run on the treadmill, you're gonna be outta breath. But the problem is, if you are trying to get fit without raising your heart rate and being out of breath, you are never gonna get fit. So I say this because if we know then that the things that we want are on the other side of maybe a short burst of shit or some uncomfortable emotion. This is something that we can then track. So I know for me that whenever I have had a day and I have moved the needle on so many things, or I've just gotten like. I've gotten a whole heap of shit done and I am like, awesome. I feel good. I feel productive. Guess what I've done? I've done all the things that I've probably been putting off or the things that I've been speaking about forever and it, it quite often doesn't really take me a long time to do, but what I'm doing, it almost feels like treadmill minutes. I'm aware of every single minute, and what I would encourage you to do is if you are in a growth period or you want growth, you are looking at who you said you were gonna be this year, and it is very different to who you were last year. What I would recommend then is every single day, every single week, fuck, maybe three times a day, you are like, I'm gonna do something that I fucking hate. If you commit to doing shit that you hate or you can't stand, or you feel resistant or itchy about, you are gonna have an amazing business. Like, think about for a second if you don't wanna write emails or do content, you're like, oh, I'm not really good. Okay, awesome. I, I'm just gonna do this and I'm gonna feel really shit. I'm gonna do shit writing. Awesome. Go do it. Do you think you're going to get to a point where you find your flow with content if you commit to just going through the process? Do you think that sometimes you are gonna be able to channel that feeling of that negative emotion into something that is gonna hit someone in a way where they're gonna be like, oh my God, yeah, this bitch gets it, and then they're gonna buy from you? Of course you will. Of course you will. Because the problem is, if we start to do things, only when we feel like it, and as soon as we get resistance, we stop, we actually train ourselves to actually have less and less tolerance to things every time. So I have done this before where when I'm riding and I am like, get this, get this done. You have to get this done. It is so funny that I can go like a huge period of time without going to the bathroom or drinking water. And then as soon as I experience this. Ugh, okay. Ugh. I don't wanna do this. I'm feel like I'm, I'm out of words. Guess what? I'll go do. All of a sudden I, oh, that's right. You haven't had water. You need to have water. Go pee. No, bitch, go Sit. Sit and get this done. You can do this. This is literally three more minutes. Push through. Push through. Because the problem is if you start to be like, okay, cool, I'll have a break. You never really just go to the toilet and come back and you are writing. You go to the toilet, you browse on your phone, you do a couple things. All of a sudden you've got 25 minutes. That has somehow disappeared. You come back and you look and you're like, oh my God, shit. That's right. Where was I? Oh, this is really hard. No, you've done heaps of work today. Look at the time. Go do it later. The problem is if you train your brain to give up, anytime you have resistance or discomfort, that muscle lessons, lessons, lessons, and it gets so fucking weak. It gets weak, and we get stupid and we don't do as much as we can. You know, if you commit to this, you'll have a completely different business. You will have a completely different life. Trust me, I am an example of this. I am an example of this. I'm gonna get to the end of this year and I'm gonna look so fucking good and people, and I'm gonna have a great business and I'm gonna have all this money, like I've already got a good business, but I'm gonna have a better business. More cash. People are gonna be like, what did you do there? And I'm gonna be like, okay, I'm gonna tell you the formula. And they'll be like, yes, I've got their little notepad. They're eagerly waiting thinking that I said some magic word to sky Daddy. And he was like, boy. There's the thing you want, and I'm gonna be like, I just kept a promise and I did everything that I said that I was gonna do, and I did it on days that I didn't feel like it. Or when I had a headache, or when I was tired, or when I was sad I did that And that is why I have the life that I have. Hot stuff. Go and do something. You don't have to feel like it. I don't know who told you. You have to feel like it. Maybe it was you, maybe it was someone on Instagram and you're like, yes, they know what they're saying, but you are listening to this podcast. I'm your unofficial mentor. Or who knows? Maybe you're a client and I'm actually your mentor, but just go and do something and. If you do this every day, your head will hit the pillow every night. You'll feel so fucking good. I promise you. I promise you that. And would I lie to you? No. I would never lie to you because I love you. I love you. I love this. I love you. I love me. I love us. What do I love? I love how like nice and long and lush my hair is. I feel like what we're gonna do hair wise is it's smooth straight bitch for summer. Oh, and then I think it's bouncy bitch for winter. Uh, so I love this. I love you more than the feeling of saying something and then remembering something that you were meant to do. I just had this moment where I said something or I thought about something and I was like, crap. That's right. I was meant to do that. And I know that sometimes people will really like beat themselves up, being like, shit, I'm so forgetful. I'm like, oh my God, how am I forgetful? I remember to do it. I'm gonna write that down and I'm gonna go and do that later. So I love you more than that. Good vibes. Good feelings. Obsessed. I love you more than like custom. Is it custom stationary? No, what's it called? Like, it's like monogrammed? No, I feel like it has a different name. I could Google, but I can't be bothered. We are very like conversation right now, like we are having a bit of a chat and I'm like, what's that word for this? And I'm, I'm doing charades trying to get my point across, but I love that there is something like beautiful and refined and slightly Patrick Bateman esque about it. And this is something I wanna, I wanna get. I wanna get some nice, like paper, some notes with like my logo or some embossing on there. Something that feels expensive that when people open this envelope and their little fingertips touch the paper, they are like, this bitch means business. Look how much she spent on this paper stock. She's got incredible taste. That's what I want. Mm, yeah. I like you. I mean, I love you. I love you. More than that, that's a good feeling. I am just having some, some private fun thoughts about that at the moment and paper. I tried, uh, recommendation Cadbury Biscoff block of chocolate. It was actually really good. I'm actually a huge fan of chocolate in the freezer, which is probably not good for my teeth, which are apparently fucked, but there's something about it. I need like a crunch. I need that hard cold crunch, so I love you more than that, I also tried sour cherry juice. I'm a big fan of that. It kind of tastes like syrupy and sweet and a bit like. Artificial in the best way and really tart and thick and delicious and like luxurious. Uh, if I was a fruit, I would be a Marino cherry. Hot stuff. I love this. I love you. I love you more than the cup of coffee that I'm about to put in my mouth and the sexy little snack that I'm about to put there too. Uh, but go do something. You don't need to feel like it. You just need to go do it.

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